Sympathy Gifts When a Child or Teen Dies
By Dave Pipitone
The sudden or anticipated death of a friend or family member causes numbness, disbelief and shock. As one who cares, you may feel helpless. How do you find sympathy gifts that show that you care during this time? Sympathy wishes may can be difficult to express, especially if an infant, child or teenager died. Sharing words of condolence in person can offer a sympathy gift that goes beyond flowers or food.
When a child dies, the parents' lives are shattered. Friends from school or the neighborhood, cousins, aunts, uncles and grandparents are shocked and find it hard to know what to say.
Being a friend to a parent or family member who has experience the immediate death of a beloved child or teenager involves being there - just listening and being present.
Dealing with death is difficult. For many people, mourning, grief and loss are the hardest things they experience in life. At a wake or funeral, friends may buy or write sympathy gifts that convey words of sorrow, empathy and being there for the surviving parents, family member or friend. Condolence words are a bereavement gift that helps lift a person's awareness that you care for them during this time of shock, numbness or disbelief.
Many times, after a funeral, a parent whose child has died feels alone and isolated. Friends or family who came to the funeral may drift away. It is very normal to feel angry at this time - angry at whatever caused the child's death, angry at God for allowing the death to happen, angry with a doctor or hospital or angry that the child didn't watch out for himself or herself.
Helping a parent think consoling thoughts can be a challenge during this time. Offering to listen and give condolence words of hope can help take the edge of the anger and help parents and family make it through a dark time.
It is very common to experience yearning - wanting to see our deceased loved one again - and soon. Parents whose children have died yearn to see them again. The deceased child's laughter, joy and love is deeply missed. It is completely normal to miss a child who was conceived, adopted and raised as been a part of a parent's life for a long time. Words of sympathy can provide an assurance that you care for a parent at this time.
The process of grieving is very normal when a child or teenager dies. Remember that every mother has a unique relationship with her child; every dad has a different experience with each child. There is no such thing as a typical loss.
The stark fact of life is that physical death happens to everyone. A religious Christian faith believes in a better life for eternity - a home with a loving God forever. Simple sympathy gifts that recall this truth - being at home with deceased children and with God when time is done brings peace of heart and calm of mind to those who are grieving.
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