Good Parents vs. Bad Parents: What is the Difference?
By Dave Pipitone
Our culture tends to try to lump parents into two categories: bad parents and good parents. But they do so with erroneous factors. A bad parent is not someone who looks poor or on social dependence programs. They do not have to be living in trailers or feeding their children on welfare in order to be a bad parent.
That is a fallacy and one that tends to be egregiously misinformed. The best household is one where effective parenting is implemented and followed under a regular basis.
First time parents find themselves facing a lot of unknowns and worst case scenarios. New parents, whatever the age of their children, get bogged down by reading about the bad things that can happen from parenting books and magazines.
The authors of those articles mean well. Their intention is to prepare parents for the bumps in raising kids and share situations that other parents have faced. Remember, anything can happen - good or bad. That is why the three strands of love, faith and hope are so important.
Faith relies on the presence of God as a loving Parent who will give the strength, courage and endurance to face parenting challenges. Hope gives a sense of encouragement that tomorrow will be better than today. Love gives the power to be kind, patient and present at all times.
There are a few constants when it comes to raising children. If these issues are discussed before they happen, parents are better able to cope with the problem or issue. A parent or parents must have a parenting plan when it comes to certain issues. It does not have to be cast in stone but at least the discussion will illuminate where each other stands on certain issues.
Parental involvement is another area for discontentment and conflict. If one parent is shouldering more than his or her share of the work, then resentment can build up. There is also a lack of bonding that occurs with the child. There are factors that some parents cannot help such as the need for income.
But fortunately there are ways around this that can help spread the work load out more evenly and allow for both parents to stay actively involved in their child's life.
Effective parenting involves a lifestyle that has to be maintained day in and day out. Being a parent means giving structure and support in such way that allows everyone in the family to have input. Styles and means will vary from family to family.
Not all families are two parent households so there are special considerations that should be kept in mind when reading parenting books and magazines. Most publications target twenty and thirty something married couples. Same sex partners, women over the age of 45 and single parents can often feel left out.
Everyone deserves to be loved and given the opportunity to love in return. Parents and children are not different in that aspect but they have to learn how to respect each other. Good parents and good children are not born; they are raised and develop into their roles.
Effective parenting can help each person learn to deal with the problems life often hands out. Using love, faith and hope as your three stranas are the cornerstone of helping your children grow through the tough times.
Good parents can remember the connection that they have with God and their children by using a My 3 Strands Parents Dedication Card set to recall the gifts of love, faith and hope.